Don't Be His Mom
>> Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Don't Be His Mom
Ladies, today I’m going to challenge you with something that may be uncomfortable for some of you.
Do not parent your husband.
I could leave it at that and tell you to take what you will from it…and if that sentence is all you take away from this post, I’m great with that.
For those of you who need a little more explanation though, I’ll keep going.
It is absolutely not your job to parent, boss, reprimand or in any way try to tell your hubby how it is or how it is going to be. Especially in public.
Still with me?
It’s so important that we are respectful. Does that mean that we cannot disagree with him? Absolutely not. But how we handle it is key!
What you say and how you say it most definitely reflects to others…whether it’s your children or other people around you. You husband was created to be the leader of your home, that doesn’t mean he’s to lord over you, but to demean him is to remove that from him completely.
Some women may actually be thinking that’s a good thing, but I can promise you this…it will destroy many facets of your relationship and even your family structure. I don’t have a technical explanation or a fancy mumbo jumbo name for it, it’s just the simple truth. lol
Yet another one of those things that are Biblically laid out for us…those are my favorites. The kind of scriptures that tell us how to live and all we have to do is listen and things will go swimmingly.
and a quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping (Proverbs 19:13b)
Or maybe this one… (Like I always say @ the V.I.E.W. say what you want to say...then move on and let your husband process what you have said) A lot to be said about Men Are From Mars...
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)
Of course, I could go on and on…but I won’t. Here’s the deal though, these instructions are definitely NOT to belittle you, trap you, make you feel like the lesser mate. They are completely to protect you.
Can I just admit that when I mess up and am less than lovely to my husband I think it’s me who incurs the most damage in the end.
Can I just encourage you to focus a bit on how you are regarding your husband this next week, especially in public and in front of your children? If you do mess up, simply ask for forgiveness (from your hubby) and move on.
I pray that your marriage is blessed! Smooches....
11 comments:
awesome teaching!! You are so wise and successfull marriage of 43 years!!
Ohhhh. Pastor Gloria...that's a good word!!!
Thank you so much for this timely word!! Since I'm getting married soon I'm definitely looking to make sure I'm accummulating as much wisdom as I can!! :)
Julie
Great word Pastor Gloria!!! You are so full of wisdom! These are some things every married should practice(note to self). Love you xoxo!=)
Pastor Gloria, now that's the kind of advice I need for my marriage. Great wisdom and thank you for sharing! Awesome word!
xoxo
Eniketi
All I can say is WOW!! You almost cant see that you were or even might be this wife unless you really take a minute and soak it in. Wonderful just wonderful Pastor Gloria. THe wisdom, knowledge, and experience you have speaks loudly even on the computer screen. I love a teaching that makes you think and tell someone else about it. You are what most marriages need at such a time as this. Love the word, Love you!!
~Cheryl~
Good word! Thank you for all the wisdom and insight you are so willing and able to share with us from many years of marriage. You are a an awesome woman and God and incredible example to us all of Godly wife :)
~Joy
Great Blog Pastor Gloria!
Angela Nugent March 1, 2010 7:00PM
Love your blog Pastor Gloria I love your words of wisdom!! I love you girfriend!!
Angela Nugent March 1,2010 7PM Hey Pastor Gloria love your blog!! You have such wonderful words of wisdom!!
Thanks Pastor Gloria. I try to remind myself of this. I tend to forget to take of the mommy hat win Jason gets home. I have been working on recognizing this area in my life. You’re the beat:)
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